Writings & Research

We believe in free and open dissemination of our ideas and research through writing. We also invite participation for research and therapeutic engagement. Our ongoing work and writings are linked here. 

Research & Therapy: Parentification

Parentification is identitfied with children have to tend to or care for their parents a lot more than the parents are able to care for them. This means that these children were relied upon, age-inappropriately to take on roles and responsibilities that were not to be expected of children their age. They may have played the peace-keeper, the hero, or the scapegoat for all that was turbulent in their families, compromising their own sense of childhood. This is a common yet invisible occurrence in many families where there may be discord, parental death or divorce or other challenging circumstances such as poverty, unemployment, immigration and so on.

It can lead to a series of difficulties in childhood and adulthood. Most notably, a parentified person is someone who cares unendingly for others, feeling an emotional exhaustion within. They are burdened with their ability and intent to care for others, and are unable to receive this care for themselves. This leads to manipulative or even abusive relationships and can also be transferred to one’s own children.

It is, however, not at all the end of the road. Repair is possible with a compassionate, therapeutic approach that understands what you have been through, and makes visible your efforts that have felt unseen for so long. 

If you would like to talk about about this, or seek therapy for it, please contact us at nivida@kindspace.in

Writing: The Shrinking Couch

The Shrinking Couch (TSC) is a collection of writings on mental health journeys from those experiencing them and professionals.

In line with our philosophy at KindSpace, TSC aims to bring people together through the sharing of personal and professional stories.

Through sharing personal stories, highlighting professional work in the area and disseminating relevant information, TSC aims to reduce the stigma and treatment gap, and by doing so, build an active, collaborative, informed and non-hierarchical mental health community in India.

Other Publications

The parentified adult 

Essay in Aeon / March 2022

Now is the time for compassion towards students

Opinion piece in The Indian Express / February 2022

Grieving through the holidays

Article published with The Hindu / November 2021

Bringing Compassion to Campus: An appeal to stop normalizing mental distress in students

Op-Ed in IIT Delhi Board of Student Publication / October 2020

Dealing with stress during a pandemic

Interview published in SPAN magazine / April 2020